“Claim your power, and bring along your full humanity. Clear the way for others to do the same. Because what our families, our companies, and the world needs is nothing more – and nothing less – than exactly WHO we are.” – Abby Wambach. I have found so much inspiration in this little “Wolfpack” book. This is what recovery, what finding your moxie is all about. It’s about claiming your power and rediscovering who you are. Who you are meant to be. Nothing more. Nothing less. YOU are enough. YOU are badass. YOU are who we need in the world.
Losing myself in the fog of alcohol made me feel powerless. It made me feel like someone I didn’t know. There certainly wasn’t the moxie I remember. And, I certainly didn’t feel badass.
My 2021 word for the year is “badassery”. I feel like I can live up to that now. I feel like I am a badass. I want everyone to feel that way! It’s an amazing, freeing feeling. It makes me want to go after my dreams. It has helped me find my true purpose. I AM enough. I AM badass. I AM needed in this world. Are you bringing the world your full humanity? If not, why? Make this a badass weekend, folks. I want to hear all about it on Monday!
My artwork has become a huge part of my recovery. Once you put that drink down, and clarity hits, all of a sudden you find yourself with a shit-ton of time on your hands! I loved art as a kid and going into my college years. It was something that brought out my creativity and put me in a state of calm mindfulness.
I found that longing again once I became sober. I realized that it keeps me present. I'm not thinking about the past. I'm not thinking about the future. I'm just thinking of the colors I get to play with, creating what's in front of me, and truly coloring my life. I get to step away satisfied that I am in the midst of creating something colorful and whimsical. Along with that, comes a clear mind to think about the future and what might be, not just in the not-so-distant future, but also what lies ahead many years down the road.
Are you exploring sobriety or even Dry January? Are you in recovery like me? What have you found to replace the hours of drinking (drinking/thinking of drinking/hangovers/etc)? Have you discovered a creativity you long forgot or a new one? A new sport you've taken up? A new skill? Language? Share what you've accomplished. If you are thinking about sobriety or giving up drinking for a little while, for whatever reason, what do you think you'd fill that time with?
I look forward to hearing your moxie!
The diagnosis of fibromyalgia came down like Thor’s hammer yesterday. I knew something was wrong for quite awhile. I’ve run 100 mile races. I’ve run seven marathons in seven days. The pain that comes after a hard race is fleeting. This pain, however, is not. FRUSTRATION.
I could have drank myself into a stupor to numb the feelings of knowing I’ll have physical pain in some form in my body the rest of my life. To numb the actual pain I have been living with for so many months. Possibly years. But, I didn’t. I sat with my feelings. I researched the shit out of this illness. Rest, more exercise, what to eat, what not to (this will be a little more difficult...I mean, french fries!!). I need to ensure I am nurturing and feeding my body, mind, and soul the best way possible with whole foods, joyful connections, exercise, and rest. Being gentle with myself is paramount. TRIUMPH.
All of us have pain in our lives. Physically, mentally, emotionally. It’s how we deal with and understand that pain to either use it to make us stronger and better, or we let it get the best of us and turn to alcohol or some other substance to numb ourselves. Will you live with frustration? Or will you triumph?
What is your triumph today?
“It’s not that you have to find the answer….You ARE the answer.” – Unf*ck Yourself by Gary John Bishop. This was a very quick, but great read. It’s to the point, raw, and on point if direct speak is for you. There’s no sugar coating in this book.
I know for a fact that once I started looking inward for my answers and stopped blaming, finding fault, or otherwise judging both myself and others, I realized the only person that was going to get me where I want to be, is ME. I AM the answer. I have my own Moxie to pull me out of the negative speak. I have my own confidence to step out of my bubble and try something new. I have my own creativity that I can share with the world.
Once you find that YOU are the answer to YOURSELF, the whole world seems to be a bright new place to live your adventure. It’s like the playground for adults. We get to have free ideas and be creative and successful with things that come straight from our soul and our Moxie. This is especially true if you are in the throws of issues with addiction. Everything is outside of you. Everything is numb. Once you put down the drink and really, I mean REALLY, dig deep within, you will see how beautiful your answer is. Happy Thursday, my tribe.
Make it a joyful one!
My mentor had asked if I wanted to be part of a discussion on a book she gave to her leadership team, "Wolfpack" by Abby Wambach. Obviously, I was in! While a quick read, this book is incredibly inspiring and just the little oompf needed to know I'm going in the right direction. A quote from the book about FIFA telling the US Women's soccer team that they couldn't possibly become as notable as the men's team, stating "don't be ridiculous". Her note in the book to that statement: "When they say you're ridiculous, you know you're onto something."
People have told me I'm being ridiculous to start my own coaching business. I must be onto something! I also had an orthopedic doctor tell me I'd never be a "runner". I believe the photo has proven otherwise.
Hold onto your dreams and make them a reality! How can I help you make them come true?
Enjoy your Monday!