“Wow. You’ve totally just unraveled my thinking process with that. What an interesting way to look at that. Now I’m excited to explore that possibility!”
YESSSSSSSSS!! Making things happen to provoke thoughts, realize dreams, and different ways of using the brain.
It occurred to me when my client said this during one of our sessions, that the word “unraveled” isn’t always a negative thing. Things unraveling, or coming apart, can lead to new beginnings, new ways to look at things, new connections coming together.
When something unravels, there are a million smaller particles that make up what was unraveled. When we see these in front of us, all these tiny pieces of what we thought to be true, we can begin to see the pieces that may not necessarily have been working for us, or what we thought was perfectly fine and good – really isn’t.
What happens when we separate these pieces that aren’t serving us? We can exam them and sit with them to understand that while they don’t serve us the way we thought they did, there is still a purpose to them. We can change our thinking and our understanding, and challenge ourselves to use this knowledge and turn it into a greater good for ourselves.
When we take the time and think about those things that don’t serve us the way we thought, and we use them to understand why we thought they did serve us, we can start to build new thinking patterns for our futures. We can now become aware of challenges that inevitably come to us that we automatically think something negative, “I can’t possibly do that,” “that’s too hard, I’ll never be able to complete that,” “what did I do to deserve this negative remark from this person,” “why can’t I not care about what others think of me.” The list can go on and on, right? We all have these automatic negative thoughts that can derail us from our dreams, from our purpose, from our love for ourselves, to what’s at hand right in front of us, whether that’s a relationship or work or a project.
When you can consciously unravel those thoughts and think about them, then you can think about WHY you think that and really start to understand what it is holding us back, fear. Fear of upsetting someone. Fear of someone forgetting who we are. Fear of doing something new and exciting that you may very well fail at, but should do anyway. Fear of hurting someone else. Fear of failed relationships.
Once you unravel and you figure out those tiny pieces and use them to challenge that negative thought process and challenge yourself to use it in a positive way, you CAN possibly do that, you CAN do that hard thing that you’ll be able to complete, YOU can understand the negative remark from that person is something THEY need to deal with, it’s not about you, you CAN absolutely not care what others think of you, you CAN leave a relationship that is not serving the individuals involved. Because… YOU will love you for who you are, and that your opinion of yourself and your abilities are enough. Because YOU have respect for yourself and other individuals involved in the unraveling, knowing that this will build something greater for them as well – IF they choose to do so for themselves.
What do you need to unravel, to examine, learn from, tear down and build back up into something better, more solid, or something entirely new? What dreams can you realize with different thinking patterns? What love can you allow yourself when you realize your opinion of yourself is the most important opinion? What moxie can come out of an unravel….it is limitless. Go start unraveling some things and let me know what you find. It just may be that one of those particles ends up being the diamond that shines bright on a whole new life adventure.